Ep 188: Moms and the Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)

Ep 188: Moms and the Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)

Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now.

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Ep 187: Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

Ep 187: Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

My life’s greatest passion is reading. Books are my lifeblood. And so you will not be surprised that I have been greatly alarmed by the rise of book bans in America in the last few years. The idea of banning books is so archaic to me, so outdated, so harmful, it’s as if we have learned NOTHING from history.

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Ep 186: College Roommates, Marriage Pacts, and Overdue Apologies (A Secret Tapes Conversation with my Soul Sister Lindsay Lawler)

Ep 186: College Roommates, Marriage Pacts, and Overdue Apologies (A Secret Tapes Conversation with my Soul Sister Lindsay Lawler)

In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old.

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Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey

Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey

We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future. 

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Ep 184: 8 Questions for the end of the summer

Ep 184: 8 Questions for the end of the summer

In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition. 

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Ep 183: 5 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy)

Ep 183: 5 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy)

Bri McKoy is one of my favorite creators on the internet (and one of my favorite people, period). She's back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Cook's Book, which launches this month.  In this conversation, Bri McKoy shares 5 things she wish she'd known when she was learning how to cook. And I have to tell you, I've been cooking for 20 years and I loved hearing her talk about these things. 

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Ep 182: 10 Things About 10 Years In Therapy

Ep 182: 10 Things About 10 Years In Therapy

Ten years ago this summer, I was in one of the lowest points of my life. I had a toddler and a baby, was grieving the death of a loved one, the diagnosis of another loved one, and the near-fatal crisis of yet another loved one. My husband was away making a movie, so I was solo parenting and circumstantially very isolated during a rainy season that had flooded our home. 

And also....I had just started therapy for the first time. 

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BONUS: What Drives You with Kevin Miller

BONUS: What Drives You with Kevin Miller

One of the things I've been working on personally this summer is examining and resetting some of the systems in my life, mostly professionally related, but also personally. Kevin Miller’s book and this conversation came at the perfect time. Identifying what motivates you can be such a key to your success. 

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Ep 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023

Ep 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023

I have so many Favorite Things to share with you from this summer. Remember that we share favorite things every few months as an exercise in gratitude but also because it's a fun and low stakes way to share ourselves. What we're into at any given moment is a reflection of our tastes and interests.

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BONUS: Remaining You While Raising Them with Alli Worthington

BONUS: Remaining You While Raising Them with Alli Worthington

I met author Alli Worthington over a decade ago when we were both in the mommy blogging world, and I've long looked up to her as an entrepreneur and innovator in the online space. And while I was a mommy blogger back then who didn't write much about motherhood, Alli was creating conferences, writing books, and raising FIVE boys and a stepdaughter. 

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BONUS: Amy Keller Laird has OCD and created the website MENTAL

BONUS: Amy Keller Laird has OCD and created the website MENTAL

Amy Keller Laird is the founder of Mental, the first mental health lifestyle platform for women. In our conversation, Amy shares 10 Things she wants you to know about mental health in this moment, including tools that can help you and thoughts on destigmatizing the way women talk about living with mental health struggles. 

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Ep 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far) with Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith

Ep 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far) with Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith

Instead of waiting for the end of the year to talk about our favorite books, my real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith and I decided we should have a mid-year meeting to discuss some of the great things we've read in this first half of 2023. 

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BONUS: The Elevation Approach with Tina Wells

BONUS: The Elevation Approach with Tina Wells

In this conversation with Tina Wells, we talk about the difference between balance and harmony as it relates to our very full lives. She shares her elevation approach, the routines and rituals that have helped her as she works towards harmony, and how this can affect your relationships on this journey.

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Ep 178: Finding Identity Where You Live (a conversation about homes and hometowns with Elizabeth Passarella)

Ep 178: Finding Identity Where You Live (a conversation about homes and hometowns with Elizabeth Passarella)

Elizabeth Passarella and I talk about her experience  moving from the south to New York City, what happened when she bought an apartment in her building that belonged to a hoarder, and the ways she is able to write so honestly about her family. I truly enjoy Elizabeth and her writing and I know you will love this conversation too.

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Ep 177: How To Find Your Signature Style

Ep 177: How To Find Your Signature Style

Do you have a signature style? Do you want to have one?

I have a few signature styles, things that I feel good in, looks that I'm known for, a style of expressing on the outside how I feel on the inside: bold lipstick, head scarves, and sweatshirts. These things anchor my favorite outfits. 

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Ep 176: The Mentor (A Secret Tapes conversation with Cyndi Finkle)

Ep 176: The Mentor (A Secret Tapes conversation with Cyndi Finkle)

When Cyndi and I sat down to record this conversation for the Secret Tapes series, we had barely seen each other in nearly ten years, even though we live within miles of one another. It was a chance for me to tell her how much she meant to me during the most important year of my life, and to hear her side of what it felt like to take a 22-year-old sorority girl fresh out of Oklahoma under her wing.

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BONUS: Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots (a conversation with Mary Marantz)

BONUS: Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots (a conversation with Mary Marantz)

Mary Marantz and I talk about striving to be the most put together person in the room in the pursuit of perfection and acceptance, feeling like we need to prove that we deserve whatever success or opportunity we have, and how our little girl selves would be so happy with who we have become.

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Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With A Business Coach (a conversation with Retha Nichole)

Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With A Business Coach (a conversation with Retha Nichole)

Eighteen months ago I started working with a business coach. It was the end of 2021 and I was, frankly, falling apart in several ways. In an effort to make something (anything) work, I hired business coach Retha Nichole to help me figure out how to prioritize the various aspects of my online work. I wanted to feel less scattered and I wanted to make more money.

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