October 06, 2020

Ep 85: Ask Me in 3 Months (2020 version)

October 06, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone who has ONE BIG TASK they really want to get done before the end of the year.

It’s October, which means we have less than three months until the end of the year. And while 2020 has been one of the weirdest years in modern history, we still somehow have normal life things that have slipped through the cracks.

Those things that we just keep procrastinating: home improvement, emotional chores, creative projects. These aren’t goals, they’re just tasks, the ones that keep slipping to the bottom of the priority list.

Let’s commit to choosing ONE thing we want to get done between now and the end of 2020 and share it as a way to stay accountable. Let’s make our future January 2021 selves super proud of how we finished the Wild West of 2020.

September 29, 2020

Ep 84: Where did we begin? (A relationship origin story with Jeff Tremaine)

September 29, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone curious to hear the other angle of an origin story.

It’s our wedding anniversary! This week, Jeff and I celebrate 13 years of marriage, and so I thought it would be fun to have him on the show to share HIS side of our relationship’s origins. This is something I’ve talked and written about for years, but (surprise!) he has a different take.

September 08, 2020

Ep 81: Who brings it out?

September 08, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is part pep talk, part permission, and part mindfulness around the nuance and energy of friendship. I'm sharing about loneliness, the benefit to shallow friends, the necessity of friends who make you talk, and the call to look closer at old friendships (and whether or not they're all serving you).

August 25, 2020

Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and affirmations for RIGHT NOW

August 25, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone who needs a little help with their attitude and self-talk right now.

I know I beat this drum regularly, but I really believe that the way we speak to ourselves shapes the way we move in the world. And these days, my self-talk can be all over the place. On this episode, I’m sharing my own personal current mantras and affirmations, and also just talking about how these things can work in your life. (Hint: it’s not magic. It’s brain science.)

But the best part of this episode is hearing from the listeners who sent in THEIR own mantras. So many great words out there.

August 11, 2020

Ep 77: What's your BIG story?

August 11, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

What's your BIG story? The main narrative arc to your life? The story that is central to your identity? Anyone who knows you well knows this story. Maybe it happened in childhood. Maybe you're currently in the middle of it. But we all have one, big, main story.

In movies and in literature, they call this the Hero's Journey. It's one of the the most common storytelling devices in art. On this episode, I'm sharing my own BIG story. The thing that I arrange events into Before & After.

July 28, 2020

Ep 75: Who are you talking about?

July 28, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone who had felt icky, gleeful, guilty, or triumphant after talking about someone else.

Look, we all do it sometimes, right? We gossip or vent or judge someone in conversation with friends. But does talking about someone behind their back REALLY say more about us than it does about them? Let’s discuss.

July 14, 2020

Ep 73: I wrote a book! (Agents, publishers, writing, and editing.)

July 14, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone curious about the process of writing and publishing.

June 30, 2020

Ep 72: Has the internet ever changed your mind?

June 30, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone willing to examine what they bring to internet culture.

Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers?

The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, despite your cousin/coworker/neighbor who claims that no good comes from fighting on facebook.

June 16, 2020

Ep 70: Age is just a number, right?

June 16, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

Please indulge me in a little birthday episode.

I turn 41 this week and though it’s not the major milestone I celebrated last year, I still have things to say. This is a short list of things i’ve noticed and learned as I age.

June 09, 2020

Ep 68: Hometown: A conversation about race with LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, and Danielle Williams

June 09, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

I’ve wanted to have this conversation with my hometown friends since I made the BIAS series on Smartest Person in the Room in 2018. I preferred to do it in person back then, but when the recent protests started over the murder of George Floyd, I asked if they would be willing to record online instead.

May 19, 2020

Ep 66: Do you have a morning routine?

May 19, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day.

I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure.

On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic.

May 05, 2020

Ep 64: Love Flood

May 05, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

I'm sharing my experiences with Love Floods, from my days as a summer camp counselor to current friendship and colleagues.

Mentioned in this episode:

Radical Compassion by Tara Brach

Ep 51: Masterminds: How To Structure and Maintain a Business Peer Group

10 Things To Tell You Connection Group on FB

April 28, 2020

Ep 63: Working from home (A conversation with Emily P Freeman)

April 28, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for you if you are working from home right now and need some tips or mindset shifts to be less distracted and more productive.

My guest is Emily P Freeman, The Next Right Thing author and podcaster. Her work-from-home structure of Theme Days is something I adopted months ago and on this episode we talk about her approach to this schedule and how she's modifying it during the Covid 19 stay-at-home orders.

We also talk about the things that we're measuring to feel accomplished, and how social media is making us feel right now when our main connection with the outside world is the internet.

April 21, 2020

Ep 62: Should you reread or burn old journals and letters?

April 21, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode if for you if you’re staring at that old shoebox full of memorabilia and aren’t sure what to do with it.

April 14, 2020

Ep 61: What if it's not that deep?

April 14, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything.

I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it.

March 31, 2020

Ep 59: Marry the person you could quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello)

March 31, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone needing a little light distraction.

The Tremaines are waving hello from week 3 of self-isolation to stop the spread of coronavirus. This episode ended up being an accidental model for the type of conversations you could be documenting in your life and family right now during this historic time.

March 24, 2020

Ep 58: 10 Ways to write your own history

March 24, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for you if you're looking for ways to document your life during the everyday (or during a historic moment).

As the world fights a global pandemic, we are part of a pivotal moment in history. Whether you're hunkering down at home, in an essential job to keep the economy afloat, or on the front lines in the medical profession, this is a time for us to write our OWN stories. Don't simply trust what the history books will say. Document it for yourself.

I'm sharing 10 simple ways to write your own history, for your own private documentation or to share publicly. All of these methods are simple and easily available.

March 17, 2020

Ep 57: Is it anxiety or is it intuition?

March 17, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for you if you have a hard time distinguishing between your anxiety and your intuition.

As someone who talks openly online about both my lifelong anxiety and following my intuition, this is a question I get a lot. I don't have all the answers, and don't always get this 100% correct, but on this episode I'm talking through how and we can conflate these two things, and the #1 question I ask myself to know the difference.

March 10, 2020

Ep 56: Who were your cultural icons when you were young?

March 10, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for you if you're in the mood for a little light-heartedness.

Today I'm taking a walk through the cultural icons of my youth and what it says about who we were drawn to when we were kids. Whether it's actors, fictional characters, musicians or sports stars, the people we wanted to be when we were young say something about our personalities.

February 18, 2020

Ep 53: Whose voice is inside your head?

February 18, 2020/ Laura Tremaine

This episode is for you if you struggle with negative self-talk.

A lot of have a critical voice in our head telling us all sorts of ugly things that lead to second-guessing and self-doubt. But where did that voice originate? Did it come from a parent? An old coach or similar authority figure from your youth? An ex?